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Thank you for this thoughtful piece and for sharing the excellent podcast episode with Miri Song. The distinction between assertion (how we see and claim ourselves) and assignment (how others categorize us) is indeed powerful, especially in times when mixity is clearly the lived reality for so many.

As someone working with relational (meta)cognition, I see both assertion and assignment as deeply shaped by — and constantly influencing — the relational field around us. They are not isolated internal processes; they emerge, shift, and co-evolve in interaction with context, environment, and the people we relate to. When we bring in an assignment or assertion from a different domain (for example, applying a political, organizational, or technological lens to a personal or cultural identity), the dynamics become even more complex and sometimes conflicting.

This makes me wonder: if identity — whether mixed or otherwise — arises dynamically in the relational field, then holding on too tightly to any fixed category (even a “mixed” one) risks distorting the very fluidity and in-betweenness that mixity reveals. Embracing the messiness might mean staying open to this ongoing relational emergence rather than trying to freeze it into stable boxes.

Really enjoyed the conversation — it resonates strongly with questions of how we can support more regenerative ways of relating across differences. Looking forward to more episodes!

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